Trouble at home? Play easy games and watch marriage strife disappear. Marriage is one of the most enjoyable but also one of the most painful experiences that people undergo. It carries with it the whiff of romance and eternal bliss, but sometimes you get a pack of thorns instead. How do you ensure your marriage is a bed of roses and not thorns?
One of the major ingredients that a happy marriage needs is a willingness to compromise. But that is much more difficult than it seems. Everyone will agree that they need to compromise, but what happens when the issue is not a simple and tiny one? What then? Who compromises first? I am sure you must have said to yourself at one point or another that enough is enough. You will no longer be the patsy. You are an independent person and your partner has crossed the line.
Maybe your relationship has died and you are just beginning to realize it. Maybe your sentiments are more passionate than romantic. Maybe you no longer love him or her. What if I told you that the solution to your marital strife is not divorce. Am I mad?Look around. How many divorces do you know? Plenty? Me too. But are they really happier off?
Now don’t get me wrong, there are definitely instances when divorce in warranted. I mean, come on! If someone is in an abusive relationship whether verbally or physically, they shouldn’t have to take that crap. I personally know of women who have been cold-blooded murdered for “trying” to make a relationship work! It’s just not worth it. In addition, if a spouse is a serial adulterer, you need to escape that situation quick, fast and in a hurry. You risk the chance of not only catching a serious disease but also involving yourself in a situation where a jealous cohort is willing to go “bat $hit” crazy! Ain’t nobody got time for that.
A loveless marriage is not marriage at all. It is a prison where both partners choose to be unhappy. On the other hand, If your marriage is in need of a bit of TLC, then there is some hope for you yet. Don’t be too quick to call it a wrap. First off, get some grown folks counseling. It’s always good to have an outside perspective when your relationship is on the rocks. Even if you have a healthy marriage, having a bit of counseling now and again won’t hurt at all.
So let’s get back to it.
What is the first thing that a divorced person does? He or she goes out and starts looking for partners. Isn’t that strange? No? You say that everybody needs somebody to love. Maybe. I say that they had somebody and they just let them go. Why not tackle your problems with a simple suggestion? A Game.
Now hold up. I’m not talking about some freaky type stuff. Some of y’all minds stay in the gutter. Games as a Peace Maker: Playing brings out the child in us and causes us to express more than we normally would. We also release bottled up frustration and let go of mental thorns in our outbursts of joy and anguish as we win or lose. Games unite people together, and therefore I suggest playing together or playing competitive (yet friendly) games against each other. The game turns into a battle but after its over, you will both feel refreshed from losing all that bottled up pain and anger.
Games to Pick From:
Try picking games that both of you like. You can even try more active games too. You could play hide and seek in the house. Having a good chase is always exciting. In addition, brain games are not only fun but thought-provoking as well. Below is a list of two people games that will really help boost the love, fun, engaging, and exciting aspect which every relationship should have. I must admit, my husband and I love some friendly competition. We get a blast out of competing and making bets. Don’t judge us! One of our favorite things we love to do is play video games. We play games such as Mortal Kombat, Street Fighter, Dead or Alive, you get the picture.
Chinese Checker, etc.
Keep score and determine beforehand that the loser has to do something for the winner. Chores is not a prize for the winner! If you lose, you have to do something more intimate and personal for the other. For instance, giving the winner their favorite massage, cook them their favorite meal, run them romantic pampering bubble bath, or taking them out to one of their favorite places. This is just a few of the ways to create an intimate and considerate reward.
Games are a welcome ambrosia to love and will excite you as a couple. It will help you disregard all your frustrations and anger and deal only with the good. The anger and frustrations will not magically disappear, but now you can deal with them together calmly and in a good mood.